What is a Relationship Strategy?

In it's simplest definition, this is your plan to bring your relationship from where it is now, to where you want it to be. What are some of the shared goals the two of you have? What are the things you want to experience together or accomplish together?

Let's say you wanted to take a trip together three months from now to the Caribbean, and the total cost - including, flight, accommodations, food and spending money is $5000. Your first thought would probably be, "Can we afford it?" Second thought, "Can we both get the time off?". If you answer yes to both, then the question of how comes into play. You would figure that you'd have to put away about $1667 per month for 3 months and then you're off to sunny, warm weather. 

A relationship strategy works in the same way. Your plan would differ based on the #RelationshipGoal. 

Perhaps there was infidelity in the relationship during a low moment. Regardless of this incident you both want to work it out. Get back to trusting  and loving one another, and perhaps feeling safe within the relationship to increase the affection and intimacy. Your goal here is trust, more love, safety and passion. Then the questions arrises, how? Only you and your boo can answer this question. Here are some strategic questions to get to your answers. 

  • What is the one thing about this relationship that makes this all worth while? 
  • What is it that you desire about your partner that will allow you to see past his/her infidelity?

You need to remember why you're in this relationship. Staying together 'for the children' is not at all enough. 

  • What emotions do you need to let go of in order to move forward? 

If you were the one who and stepped out, what emotions led to that action? What are these emotions telling you about you? If you were the one who was cheated on, what emotions were present within you during this time? What emotions were being projected on to your partner, or how were you showing up for him/her?

  • What actions can you take to show him/her that you trust/love them or, what actions can you take to show your partner affection and intimacy?

After infidelity, the trust and love usually needs to be built up first before anything else. Once built back up, a sense of safety blankets the relationship, which then leads to affection, intimacy and ultimately back to passion! 

 

Would you like some help to figure out what your relationship strategy is?